…which is part of why different people ship different things. Or even the same things for different reasons.

Now I’m a romantic at heart. I do get the fuzzies when I see the characters I want to be together kiss. Though, for me, there is more to a relationship than that. I also love to watch non-romantic relationships play out. Like Tony and Bruce being “Science Bros”, or Turk and J.D. having the most epic bromance ever!

When I ship though, I always have reasons. It’s why I find it hard to follow crack pairings. I can’t really get invested in “These two characters are sexy, they should fuck”. I’m not arguing that they shouldn’t, and if that is the opinion of the characters involved as well, go for it! Hell, it could be canon, but that’s still not enough to interest me. I need a connection.

Take, for example, my recent fall into the Clint/Natasha camp; I don’t ship them just because they are sexy. I actually didn’t think about them much going into the movie, to be honest. But I know their backgrounds. I know both have gotten around, quite a bit in fact. So the two of them having sex would seem to matter little in that context. No, what caught me was the connection they shared. Clearly they have shared things with each other that they haven’t with anyone else, and feel they can confide in each other. They have each other’s backs (for now anyway, in the movie-verse. Once again, I know the characters as they are in the comics.)

It’s what I love about the (some of it headcanon) Sebastian/Hawke romance. That he has made vows, but he’s not struggling against them for the sake of getting sex again. Depending on your play through, he offers a sexless marriage. No, it’s because he deeply loves her for who she is and seems to want nothing more than to be with her, despite his duties and (in the case of my Hawke) her being an apostate. Given his discipline up til then, there must be a lot of emotion there to bring him to that point. 

The connections like these are what appeal to me in a relationship. For me, it can be as intimate, if not more so, than sex. It’s the emotions. Sex and snuggling is one way to physically (and visually in the case of drawing) convey those feelings, but its the feeling that matter most to me. That’s what I seek out in my ships. It’s what I sought out in a partner. Not everyone will agree, but my opinion is that it’s best when the person you will be spending the rest of your life with is your best friend. When you can tell each other everything, when you know things nobody else does. Sharing that connection only the two of you have.

This is what I value in my ships.

Now, to start with, I’ve never stated that my main blog is SFW. But as a courtesy to my friends and followers who check their dashes at work, I have limited the level of NSFW content on here. That being said, I offer this guide as possible warning for what you will find where:

Leafychan: This blog I’m posting from. My main.

• Text is fair game: Since the whole point is to not have your boss/coworkers/mom walk by and in that half a second get a glimpse of something erotic or disturbing, I’m not censoring out anything in text form from this blog. If there is enough time for someone to read something inappropriate over your shoulder, then there should have also been enough time to shoo them away or close the tab/scroll past. The brain can recognize an image instantly. So fanfic and stuff reblogged will stay here.

• Artistic nudes may be reblogged: At my own discretion, I may reblog things that are or styled like classic art. Examples being things like Leonardo da Vinci’s or Alphonse Mucha’s art, where there is some nudity, but it’s very natural/tasteful. If genitalia is depicted as a sexual focus or being “ready to go”, it will be posted to my naughty blog instead. Naked boobs and butts, likewise, if they are being shoved at the viewer in a “Take me now” way, will not be posted here. Otherwise, butts will be posted here. 

• Implied erotic poses: If nothing is showing, I will post them here. You can find the same imagery in many magazines you find at the grocery store or in your employee break room advertising some cologne or jeans. 

Leafyperv: Basically my porn blog. 

• All graphic sex goes here.
• Anything showcasing genitalia as “ready”
• Any nudity that doesn’t really seem to fit under that classic artistic look. Nudity for the blatant sake of nudity.
• Anything else that might be questionable.

This is a thing that I have noticed a few people I follow do, so I’m likely to be doing this here on out with at least my art posts.

Now, before I get any anons in my inbox (right, like I get things in my inbox more than once a month… XP) crying about proper tumblr etiquette, that it’s bad form, or that I’m somehow attention whoring, here is the rationale:

I have followers from all over the globe. Many are asleep when I’m awake. Now I know it’s not the case with everyone, but I know MY dash moves really fast, cause I follow a lot of people. Others my have the same problem. I often miss things that aren’t reblogged a lot.

I’m doing this so that those of my followers who are asleep when I post may have another chance to see it (because many of my followers are in the fandoms I’m arting for anyway and I would hope would care to see them). I’m not, to my knowledge, well known enough in any of my fandoms for my posts to be passed around enough to stay on dashes long. 

So there is my reasoning. For anyone out there with slow dashes worried that I’ll “spam” their dash with my art, don’t. Unless I’m reblogging to reply to someone’s comment, I’ll only be doing it once, and it will be spaced out by half a day. 

Well that’s that. I’m sure none of you would go hard on me for something so trivial, I have awesome followers! I’m just covering my ass is all.

^.~<3

Now while this could be an excuse for me to draw fanart of my favorite men, it is NONE THE LESS practice. I do feel more motivated to draw art of male characters that I like rather than random guys for the sake of bodies. Need passion for drive, so there is absolutely nothing wrong with this line of reasoning.

So as long as I can stay motivated, I plan to draw not-so-clothed art of the following characters:

Kaidan Alenko - Mass Effect Series

Max Taylor - Husband’s original story

Sebastian Vael - Dragon Age 2

Anders - Dragon Age 2

Jak - Jak & Daxter series

Some of these may also produce some ship-art and smut, so keep watching and hopefully stuff will start appearing across dashes soon ;)

Because I reblog a lot, and often stuff gets lost, I shall again pimp my two other Tumblr blogs. My Art-Only blog and my Porn blog.

 Leafydraws

This is where I will be posting all of my own art or collaborations. This is strictly for my art, so there will be no reblogs here unless it contains my own art from elsewhere. Any art I post to Leafychan will have been reblogged from or linked to Leafydraws. 

Warning: There is smut there, and there WILL be more to come, of several varieties. ;)

 Leafyperv

This is basically my porn blog. Meant so that I don’t leave unwanted smut all over some followers dashboards, this is where all the dicks (and boobs) get reblogged. If you DO want smut on your dash, please follow THIS blog.  ;D

These we made specifically to find my art easier and to spare my friends from dicks on their dashes at work. If you don’t want to follow them, that’s fine. But it will add to the experience if you do ;)

Thank you again to all of my followers here! <3

So on twitter, Bex started using the #AboutMe tag as a way to get to know people better by letting them get to know her. I liked this idea and joined in.

Just now though, I thought, “Why don’t I do the same here on Tumblr?” Many of you here don’t follow me on twitter, so why not get to know everyone here?

So expect to see these popping up on my blog. Hopefully it will help get to know people better!

And of course, if there is anything at all you wanna know, just ask! I’m sorta like an open book. :)